April 30, 2014
April 30, 2014
After going through the fire of 3,000+ conversations with pro-choice people, we’ve learned a lot of things that create an environment in the conversation where the other person is more likely to change their mind. These are some of those nitty-gritty dialogue tips.
There are some good pro-life responses to bodily rights arguments for abortion. These two rejoinders don’t belong on that list.
I am convinced that most pro-abortion-choice advocates who go beyond basic rhetoric and slogans are partially grounding their position in some form of bodily autonomy arguments. If you’re somewhat new to arguments for abortion rights that admit for sake of argument that the unborn is a fully valuable person, please listen to this speech I gave at UCLA last month explaining them as well as offering some refutations.
Let me offer a brief summary of bodily rights arguments before getting to the faulty pro-life responses. Most pro-choice arguments either assume that the unborn are not valuable human beings, (“What about poverty?” “What if she will lose her scholarship?”) or they argue that the unborn are not valuable human beings. (“It’s not viable yet.” “It’s not sentient yet.” “It can’t feel pain yet.”) But there’s a third category of pro-choice arguments that admit (at least for the sake of argument) that the unborn are valuable human beings, yet the mother should still have the right to kill them because of her bodily autonomy. Her view is that if it’s in her body, she has the right to kill it, or at least take whatever measures necessary to refuse to have her body used as life support.
I’ve spoken on bodily rights arguments a lot, especially after helping write the De Facto Guardian paper. During Q&A, someone will often ask about a potential pro-life response that I didn’t include in the speech.
Here’s one I’ve heard several times in that context, and I’ve seen pro-lifers use it in blog posts as well:
“No woman has an abortion because she’s trying to protect her right to bodily autonomy.”
Trigger warning: This article may contain difficult content for those who have experienced sexual trauma.
Two weeks ago, Live Action News reported a story that I’ve been processing ever since:
“Yesterday’s United Nations Report on the human rights abuses in North Korea unveiled a level of depravity and cruelty unparalleled in modern society. The 36-page initial report and 372-page report of detailed findings also revealed the systematic murder and persecution of society’s most vulnerable – the unborn and the handicapped.”
The report graphically details how forced abortions are performed by beating the mothers, forcing chemicals into their vagina by hand, and/or using crude surgical instruments without anesthetic.
The entire report is difficult to read, but the part that stood out most was this horrific section:
Some people will agree with many of your pro-life facts, but they won’t want to become fully pro-life because that would mean condemning their post-abortive friends. How can you dialogue with them?
I recently lead a conference call with Steve Wagner from Justice For All, training some local pro-life leaders. During the Q&A time, my friend Greg asked about a situation he encountered while talking with somebody about abortion at the College of the Sequoias in Visalia. He said that she was pretty much pro-life, or at least, she wanted to be. She knew a few people who had had abortions though, and she didn’t feel like she could cross the line of believing that they did something that should be illegal. Eventually, they ended up going in circles, and Greg wanted to know what he could have done differently.
The following tips are what Steve and I offered to Greg in the ensuing discussion.
Show some genuine concern for them. I find that sometimes this is the easiest thing for pro-life advocates to forget. There’s such a big part of us (understandably) that wants to focus all attention on the unborn, especially after hearing a story of one or more being killed. Fight that urge, and show some concern for women who have had abortions.
Frankly, there will be some cases where you shouldn’t even move to step two. (Although this is probably more true when the issue of rape comes up.) That’s okay. If you’re a Christian you can believe that just as God brought this person in your life for a short while, He can bring other pro-life advocates in her future that will water the seed you planted.
Your friends who had the abortions, how are they doing?
I was asked to give an apologetics speech at the Students for Life of America 2014 West Coast National Conference. I was given a title, “I’m Pro-Life, But…” that I was allowed to do anything I wanted with, so I chose to respond to these four common statements and questions:
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Thanks to Secular Pro-Life for providing their video to me.