Responding to the Question of Rape with Wisdom and Compassion

This article is an expanded version of my first “Life Lessons with Josh” column in Life Matters Journal, in which I answer questions from LMJ’s readers. This reader asked for help responding to the question of rape:

One of the most common questions I get about being pro-life is “But what if the mother was raped?” I stand for all life, even life that was created through rape or any other difficult situation. How can I explain that to a pro-choicer in such a way that I don’t come across as callous or uncaring about the mother’s situation?

~ Troubled in Tuscaloosa

I love the way this question is worded. You clearly care about showing that you don’t only care about the child, but that you rightly care for the survivor of rape as well. Many pro-life people don’t communicate that very well when they talk about rape. They come across as if they have something we call Fetus Tunnel Vision.” I think the question of rape is the most common example of this. Immediately we say, “The child’s right to life shouldn’t be dependent on how it was conceived!” I agree with that, but who does this skip? The mother.

My friend Steve Wagner at Justice For All has made a huge impact on the way I think about how pro-life people should respond to rape. He says:

When a pro-choice person brings up the issue of rape, they’re not terribly concerned at that point if the unborn is human. They want to find out whether you’re human.

Can you see how horrible rape is? If not, please don’t tell people you’re pro-life. I’ve trained people before who understood the definition of rape, but they didn’t understand what rape is. There are other pro-lifers who cannot hear the word “rape” and let themselves acknowledge how horrible rape is because they feel like they’re losing debate points or time. There’s too much of that out there and it’s hurting our movement.

So, here’s what we should do instead. We should first acknowledge the horror of rape.

UPDATE: The Saturday seminar booked up before we even began promoting it, so we’ve not opened up this Sunday seminar option.

The Equal Rights Institute training seminar is coming to Sacramento!

Josh and Tim Brahm will teach and mentor you personally to make sure you get the most out of the day. This seminar is designed to train you to have productive conversations with pro-choice people, using the arguments and dialogue skills that will be most likely to change their mind.

NOTE: If you attend this seminar, you will be working with an experienced mentor who will help you to learn the concepts and be able to put them into practice. Because there is a limited number of mentors, there is a cap on the number of people we can effectively train at this seminar. Registering at this page is the ONLY way to guarantee a seat at the seminar. If we still have room left for more people on the day of the event, it will be first come first served until we meet our cap. If you’re planning to attend, please complete this registration to guarantee a seat.

Training Seminar:

  • When: Sunday, February 28th. Registration starts at 1:30. Seminar starts at 2:00 and ends at 8:30.
  • Where: New Hope Christian Fellowship | 6240 Verner Ave, Sacramento, CA
  • Food: Dinner will be provided, as well as snacks and refreshments.
  • Cost: Free

Campus Outreach:

  • When: Monday and Tuesday, February 29th and March 1st, from 9 am – 4 pm.
  • Where: UC Davis
Date: February 28, 2016
Time: 2:00 - 8:30 p.m.
Event: Equal Rights Institute Seminar
Sponsor: Equal Rights Institute
559-593-8700
Venue: New Hope Christian Fellowship
Location: 6240 Verner Ave
Sacramento, CA 95841
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.

Will Smith’s Indefensible Moral Relativism

Will Smith was recently featured along with several other actors on one of The Hollywood Reporter’s (THR) hour-long roundtable discussions. Not only did Will Smith make a relativistic statement, but the interviewer asked precisely the right question to push back against his view! It’s worth taking a few minutes to analyze what Will Smith said because his view is unfortunately common and it’s helpful to take a close look at the views of those with whom we disagree.

About halfway through the discussion, one of the interviewers asked Will Smith about his recent movie, Concussion. The movie is based on the true story of a Nigerian forensic pathologist named Dr. Bennet Omalu who spent years trying to get NFL leadership to take seriously his research on potentially lethal head injuries from playing football.

Will Smith on The Hollywood Reporter

Screenshot from The Hollywood Reporter video

The Equal Rights Institute training seminar is coming to Sacramento!

Josh and Tim Brahm will teach and mentor you personally to make sure you get the most out of the day. This seminar is designed to train you to have productive conversations with pro-choice people, using the arguments and dialogue skills that will be most likely to change their mind.

NOTE: If you attend this seminar, you will be working with an experienced mentor who will help you to learn the concepts and be able to put them into practice. Because there is a limited number of mentors, there is a cap on the number of people we can effectively train at this seminar. Registering at this page is the ONLY way to guarantee a seat at the seminar. If we still have room left for more people on the day of the event, it will be first come first served until we meet our cap. If you’re planning to attend, please complete this registration to guarantee a seat.

Training Seminar:

  • When: Saturday, February 27th. Registration starts at 8:30. Seminar starts at 9:00 and ends at 4:30.
  • Where: New Hope Christian Fellowship | 6240 Verner Ave, Sacramento, CA
  • Food: Lunch will be provided, as well as snacks and refreshments.
  • Cost: Free

Campus Outreach:

  • When: Monday and Tuesday, February 29th and March 1st, from 9 am – 4 pm.
  • Where: Location to be announced at the seminar.
Date: February 27, 2016
Time: 8:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.
Event: Equal Rights Institute Seminar
Sponsor: Equal Rights Institute
559-593-8700
Venue: New Hope Christian Fellowship
Location: 6240 Verner Ave
Sacramento, CA 95841
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.

Students for Life Is Honoring ERI with a Defender of Life Award

Students for Life of America has decided to honor me and nine other pro-life Millennial leaders with a Defender of Life award at their conferences this month.

This means a lot to me, as I see Students for Life as being one of the most effective pro-life organizations in the country. To be on the same list as so many other young leaders who are making a huge impact is also humbling.

But mainly, this is really encouraging to me because it tells me that we are helping people. We started ERI to create more opportunities to help pro-lifers learn to be more gracious and persuasive, and I’m really thankful for the success with which God has blessed us. Thank you so much for faithfully supporting us and making this mission possible.

Top 5 ERI Articles of 2015

I created this list using the Google Analytics for the ERI blog, instead of complicating the process by incorporating stats from LifeNews.com, where many of our articles are later republished.

Our blog received 79,000 unique pageviews from more than 43,000 unique people this year. That’s a 140% increase in readers from last year.

After running our first reader survey this year, we decided to post more consistently, maintain a calm, respectful, yet uncompromising tone, keep things practical, and keep using stories to model the kinds of dialogues we want people to have. I think we accomplished all of those goals, and we saw great growth to our blog this year.

On to the list!

#5: Avoiding an Embarrassingly Common Pro-Life Mistake

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Our mission is to train pro-life advocates to think clearly, reason honestly, and argue persuasively. We want to help the pro-life movement to make the kinds of arguments that are compelling to pro-choice people. We also want to help pro-life people to avoid common pitfalls, and this post is an example of that.

It was interesting to see some people respond to this piece by claiming that pro-lifers don’t make this mistake while at the same time reading comments from readers saying that they’ve been making this mistake for years and had no idea they were committing a logical fallacy.

Planned Parenthood’s Absurd Position on HIV Disclosure

This morning I saw an article on DailyWire and I couldn’t decide if I was surprised or not. Kimberly Ellis points out that in Matt Lauer’s recent interview with Charlie Sheen, they were operating under a clear assumption that it is morally obligatory to disclose your HIV status to a sexual partner. Then Ellis points out that Planned Parenthood disagrees with Lauer and Sheen in their booklet for teens with HIV, Healthy, Happy and Hot.

Should I be surprised? On one hand, finding out that Planned Parenthood thinks HIV people have a moral right to not tell their sexual partners of their condition ought to be shocking. It’s a horrible, evil, destructive view. But on the other hand it shouldn’t be surprising because it coheres with what I already know about Planned Parenthood: they think the rights of some people to live (like the unborn) are less important than the rights of other people to have sex.

Two months ago I wrote an article about my conversation at the University of Michigan with a student I called Brent. Brent was honest enough to admit that he was pro-choice because he believed that the right to have sex was absolute, and without the right to kill unborn children, women wouldn’t be able to exercise that right.

Brent and Planned Parenthood (and many other pro-choice people) are making the same mistake: believing that the right to have sex is absolute. They are wrong. Your right to have sex is less important than another person’s right to live. Your right to live is more important than another person’s right to have sex.*

Timothy Brahm will be giving pro-life training at Students for Life’s Leadership Summit in Los Angeles this spring. More details and a registration link will be announced in the future.

Date: April 9, 2016
Event: Students for Life Leadership Summit
Topic: TBD
Sponsor: Students for Life of America
540-834-4600
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Public: Public

We’re honored that Josh Brahm will be giving a lecture for a second year in a row at Biola’s Torrey Honors Institute.

More specific details about the room he’ll be speaking at to be announced in the future.

Date: April 8, 2016
Time: 2:00 - 3:30 p.m.
Event: Torrey Honors Institute Lecture
Topic: 7 Practical Dialogue Tips: What We’ve Learned from Talking with 3,000 Pro-Choice People
Sponsor: Biola University
Venue: Biola University
Location: 13800 Biola Ave
La Mirada, CA 90639
Public: Public

Josh Brahm will be giving pro-life training seminar for the Students for Life clubs at and around Biola University, but the event is also open to non-students. More details and a registration link will be announced in the future.

Date: March 5, 2016
Time: 1:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.
Event: Equal Rights Institute Seminar at Biola University
Sponsor: Biola Students for Life Club
Venue: Biola University - Business Building
Location: 13800 Biola Ave
La Mirada, CA 90639
Public: Public